How To Be More Intentional With Your Impact

It’s time…

As we shift into 2021 it’s time to consider how you show up, to consider how it affects the people around you.

In E75 I discuss the importance of the way we show up, the ripple we create, and why it matters.

You can listen in HERE.

I also take the time to share with you some tips that I use to help keep myself accountable in terms of my own leadership - and I am going to break those down for you today.

Because every time that your actions, your energy and your words have an impact on someone else - you’re in a position of leadership.

Don’t align with the word leader?

Try the word role model instead.

Whatever your word is, there are always people in your life that your actions have a direct impact on, whether positive or negative. 

Whatever your word is, there are always situations in your life where you can lead by example.

So if you are ready to become more intentional with your impact, keeping reading - and if you aren’t, definitely keep reading...

1 - Determine your starting point.

I’ve developed a leadership assessment tool to get you started, and to help you determine where you are at:

You can access it HERE.

What is important about this step is that you are really honest with where you are at, there is no shame in that game - we all have to start somewhere.

And what matters is not what has happened, or how you have shown up in the past…

Spoiler, you can’t undo past actions.

What matters is how you clean up, how to shift old patterns and behaviors, and how you show up moving forward.

2 - Do the work.

You know where you are at, so now it is time to make the shifts necessary to be better.

“We can only control ourselves. It starts and stops with each one of us - really highlighting within

ourselves, within those times when we are leading teams, our families, our communities,

when we are affecting other people, what needs to shift?”

How we show up is a choice, our actions are a choice, so start taking responsibility for those choices.

Our choices are rooted in our belief systems. If you aren’t getting the results you want, then the belief system navigating your actions is not aligned with the outcome - long story short, change the damn belief (I like to call this upgrading our belief systems).

Just like your phone, or computer, or device needs system upgrades from time to time, so do your beliefs.

Here are some tips to get you started...

Shift your inner dialogue.

In order to make a shift, we first have to acknowledge old beliefs.

Start to become aware of your thoughts throughout the day (especially those that seem to occur on repeat).

Ask yourself if these thoughts are helping or hindering your progress (hint: if they are saying anything negative about yourself or another, they are likely hindering).

Every time you become aware of yourself thinking that thought, stop yourself and replace it with an upgraded belief.

Where you can anchor this belief in action (do the damn thing).

3 - Leave space for mistakes.

We are all human here, and as such we will all make mistakes (this is part of the learning). 

Give space (and grace) for yourself and others to make mistakes. Again, what is more important is how we clean up and show up moving forward.

It’s all about the progress, not the perfection.

“Yes we are human, and yes we will make mistakes. It’s not about perfection, it’s about cleaning up

when we do make mistakes. Doing the work to heal ourselves, making sure we don’t do that again.”

4 - Align your actions with your intentions.

If you’ve made it this far in the process you’ve determined how you want to show up (you’ve created clarity). But without action, this clarity can never be grounded in reality.

I am a firm believer that what got you here won’t get you there - the same actions, that are a product of the same choices, that are a product of the same belief systems will never get you new results (and you likely made it this far because you aren’t getting the results you want).

So become very clear on what your intentions are (the ways that you want to show up in the world) and then ensure that each action that follows is:

Aligned with these intentions.

Aligned with how you want to affect people.

Ensure that your thoughts, your energy, your words are all in line with the impact you want to create.

“If you’re not thinking about those things and you're just randomly shooting the arrow of your voice, and

tone, and your inability to manage your stresses in a way that will ripple onto others, that’s where it starts. 

It always starts with us.”

5 - Get comfortable with being uncomfortable.

Change management is the buzzword that everyone is talking about right now, because we are going through so damn much of it.

And while change can be uncomfortable, it is also a necessary part of growth.

(I talk more about the importance of stepping outside your comfort zone in another blog, which you can check out HERE).

Long story short…

Stepping out of our comfort zone is the only space in which growth can happen, because growth only occurs when we push past what we already know - so start doing it more proactively (in a way that feels good).

Have hard conversations.

Own up to your mistakes (and then clean them up).

Create your boundaries.

Challenge yourself.

Take the leap.

Always in a way that aligns with your intentions, because every action has a ripple.

And if you take anything away from the conversation, take away this...when we do the work to shift how we show up, the world around us shifts too.

So get comfortable with that and start to own the power that you have. 

The world needs stronger leaders, let’s start with you.

Check out E75 HERE.

Why You Should Choose to Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

A few months ago I sat down with Pam Fischer-Dale, a certified High Performance Coach and member of the Thrive Collective - a group of female experts that work to transform the way individuals and organizations lead. 

You can listen to E76 HERE

Together we discuss the magic that exists when we take that metaphorical leap outside our comfort zone, and how the growth that occurs here leads to success. Our conversation was so inspiring that I wanted to share with y’all some major insights.

To start, I want to define what I mean by the term “comfort zone”...

Figure 1.0: Transform Destiny CORE Method Manual (2018)

The grey section in the middle is the “comfort zone”, and the line that runs along the length of the graph is an example of experiences or external factors in life.

Over the course of time there are a variety of experiences, those within the comfort zone and those that are outside of it. When we have experiences that are outside of the comfort zone, we grow (and our comfort zone grows with us).

What the graph does not show is that we can choose to stay within our comfort zone, or  choose to step into the space outside of it.

Spoiler...

Choosing to stay within the lines sets you up for failure. 

Because here is the reality…

Whether you like it or not, you are not in control of the external factors in your life - there will be experiences in life that are outside your comfort zone (both good and bad). 

Let me give you a couple of examples:

Imagine you walk into work one day and you get called into the office - your boss tells you that you are unexpectedly being promoted to a position that you have been hoping for...cue the new role and new responsibilities that shift you out of your comfort zone.

On the other hand, imagine you walk into work one day and you get called into the office - your boss tells you that you are being fired...cue the unexpected unemployment that shifts you out of your comfort zone.

In either example, you are forced to navigate a new space, and thus your comfort zone expands. But because you did not choose to step into the space, the highs and lows are arbitrary - you are a product of your environment...cue the randomness.

BUT, it doesn’t have to be this way.

Here is what I know to be true: 

Success is not random.

It is an intentional choice.

So how do we become more intentional with our choices to grow?

Both Pam and I are certified in methodologies that have taught us how to actively and intentionally step into and navigate the spaces outside our comfort zones - and so, I want to share our learnings with you:

1- Be conscious.

Ask yourself:

Where am I doing what is expected of me?

Any answer you write down here indicates where you have a passive response to staying in your comfort zone - we choose to be here when we don’t want to upset others or do something that might be criticized.

If this is you, my challenge to you becomes: 

Honor yourself.

It is your life, so live it on your terms.

It may still be hard, scary, uncomfortable...but damn it is so empowering.

2 - Be courageous. 

Ask yourself: 

Where am I backing down?

Any answer you write down here indicates a fear response to staying in your comfort zone - we choose to be here because the alternative is full of “what if’s”, and we are not willing to hold ourselves accountable to the outcome.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again...those “what if's” will never actually happen if you are always wondering what if. 

Also...the outcome is always your responsibility, so why not have more say in the actions that lead up to it (this is what you can control).

And if you still aren’t convinced that taking the leap is worth it, I’ll leave you with this...

Success is linked to our capacity to grow.

Growth only happens when we are pushed past what we already know (ie. the space outside our comfort zone).

So you can passively and fearfully wait to be forced into growth, or actively and intentionally step into it.

Either way you will face highs and lows, but by choosing to take the leap you actively expand your comfort zone so that when external factors come into play you have already increased your capacity to handle it - think proactive versus reactive (again, success is not random).

So, as we shift into 2021 my challenge to you is - give yourself the permission to take the leap (in a way that feels good).

Thank you Pam for an incredible conversation!

You can listen to E76 HERE.

How To Accelerate Your Growth

Ready to accelerate your growth in 2021?

In E87 Paula Moyer and I sat down to talk about our own growth and share what we have learned around choosing the trajectory of our lives - which could not be more important with the New Year right around the corner (check out E87 HERE).

To get you started, I’m going to break down our top fours tips for accelerated growth:

1 - Take responsibility for your choices.

First and foremost…

Own. Your. Shit.

“When we allow ourselves to disconnect and think we're no longer responsible for that choice, that somebody else is now pushing that on us... that somehow you lost control...or you don't have as much command of that as you want is completely just a made up thing that is...a way to not have to deal with the difficulty of making a different choice now.”

There is a lot that you are not in control of in life, but you always have control over your thoughts, your decisions and your actions - which means you always have a choice in how you show up.

Your choices have led you to exactly where you are at.

Don’t like the way things are looking? 

Well lucky for you, you have a choice in that too:

“You adjust. 

You adapt. 

Change your perception of why you're there or you change the environment.”

Now I can already hear some of you saying “But Charlotte…”

My challenge to you then becomes, drop the excuses, because there will always be one.

Imagine a world where excuses do not exist...

You either do the thing or you don’t.

It happens or it doesn’t.

You evolve or you stay where you are.

There is no shame in either, but by removing excuses from the equation it then becomes a choice - and that is really what it has been about all along.

2 - Build a support system (and be one for others).

You do not have to go it alone.

In fact, I encourage against it, and here is why…

“You can't see your own blind spots. You're going to bump into stuff and have crashes...you will hit lots of things, trigger old belief systems that you have in yourself - and you will slow yourself or even stop yourself from progressing…

...having someone who understands where you're going is going to be able to say, “Here is that thing coming up again and here's a tool for you, let's navigate that.” And instead of it being a stop, it just becomes a little poof and then you keep going.”

I am a firm believer that what got you here won’t get you there - the same ways of being that have led you to where you are will not shift you out of the space in which they put you (this is where it is important to ask yourself if you are getting the result you want). 

To create a shift in our perspective, it needs to be challenged - and this is where a support system is crucial. 

Whether it be a coach, a mentor, a mastermind, or a close group of friends, having people to confide in, challenge you, and champion you is essential to reaching your next level of success - so take some time to connect with people who have similar values and goals, people who will elevate you.

3 - Don’t compartmentalize.

If there is one thing that so many of us get wrong it is the idea that our work life is separate from our personal life (substitute “work” for any other area of your life).

To be clear, I am not saying to bring work home with you, or to take your personal drama to work, but what so many of us need to recognize is that we are one person - the values that drive us in one area should be the same as the values that drive us in another.

“When we compartmentalize ourselves is when problems start to happen, we fragment.”

In order to show up as the best of us (which promotes our growth), there is a level of alignment that is required…

What is the opposite of wholly aligned? 

Fragmented.

Every action that we make should be aligned to our values, whether it be at work or at home - if we make choices that are out of alignment while at work, that ripple will trickle into our home life and vice versa (by trying to compartmentalize we end up muddling the whole equation).

So take some time to get really clear on what your values are, and then make sure each choice thereafter is aligned with them.

When you show up as the best of you in all situations, that is where real growth happens.

4 - Trust.

As we round out 2020, I bring this in as a reminder that we are still in a no forcing zone - if it is meant for you, you won’t have to force it:

“It's scary, but you take the leap and you just trust it.

And it's been the secret sauce formula, the trust and letting go, the surrender and the checking in with yourself. And I always say now the things that are meant to be they come in and they come in seamlessly - and it happens in these ways that logic can't always explain. And once things have to leave, then they become hard and it's not smooth, it's not seamless. 

And I used to try and force those things to just work -  the driven part of me. But that's where that little ego hook would step in.

But finally releasing and surrendering that -  if it's not meant to be, listen, it's going to  feel really clunky and hard. There's gonna be a lot of resistance, and all these moments that we speak of were very scary choices.

But everything just fell into place and it was just so amazing.”

Trust is a practice. 

It is a practice of humbling our expectations. 

A practice of finding much joy and gratitude in our present circumstance as possible.

And just like us, this practice isn’t perfect - it’s a learn as we go type situation.

But if you can get to a place where you truly trust that everything is happening as it should be, then you stop forcing things into your life that aren’t meant for you, and you make space for the more incredible, more aligned things that are.

Now this doesn’t mean that it won’t be challenging at times - we are here in this life to learn the lessons that are required for us to reach that next level. And then the next. And then the next. And these will be difficult at times, if not all the time.

And so our final tip for accelerating your growth is really about trusting that everything is happening as it should be - reflect on what it is you need to take from each situation…

What learning, what information, what clarity - and then use that to propel you forward. 

Let’s take everything you learned in 2020 and use it to transform 2021.

Burn off what no longer serves you.

And fuel that which is aligned with the best of you - to ultimately change the trajectory of your life.

Paula’s journey is truly an example of leaning into transformation.

This is an episode you don’t want to miss!! 

Listen to E87 HERE.

What is aligned leadership?

Leaders, listen up...

A few weeks ago I sat down with Marianne Zakhour, the co-founder of an eCommerce, order management and back office platform based in Canada. Marianne and I talk about operating from a place of alignment, specifically in regards to leadership (you can listen to E86 HERE).

My conversation with Marianne inspired this week’s blog post about aligned leadership - and if you see the word leadership and think that means this doesn’t apply to you, keep reading…

Guess what?

We are all leaders.

Which means that even if you aren’t responsible for a business or a team, you are still responsible for how you show up with the people in your life. 

Before we get into it, I want to give you an analogy to think about…

Imagine you are incredibly frustrated and so you throw a stone into a pond. 

The stone creates a ripple right?

Now imagine you are really joyful and so you throw a stone into a pond.

The stone creates a ripple right?

The stone doesn’t care if the energy behind the throw is positive or negative, it creates a ripple either way.

Your actions in life are like this.

The action creates a ripple whether the intention is positive or negative (it does not care) - which means that everything you do matters.

Here is the good news though, you always have a choice in how you show up - which brings us back to aligned leadership.

Ask yourself:

Do you make decisions out of fear?

(ie. fear of getting blamed, fear of not being liked, fear of the outcome)

Do you try to control yourself/situations/others?

(ie. you micro manage, you don’t delegate, you don’t trust)

Do you feel in competition with those around you?

(ie. you don’t want others to outshine you, you don’t want people to think you can’t do your job)

Do you feel a sense of superiority over others?

(ie. you feel better at your job than others (they are the problem), you use your position/ranking to get what you want)

Do you act only in self service?

(ie. you make decisions that make you look good, you help out if you know that someone is watching)

If you answered yes to any of these, your ego is running the show.

Now before you get all defensive on me - the intention of the ego is not necessarily malicious.

The ego is all about self-preservation (so thank it for all the ways in which it has kept you safe over the years), but because of this, the ego is inherently self-centred in nature. 

It is separate.

And separate is not in alignment with the whole.

How then do we show up more aligned? 

Do. The. Work.

If you were looking for a quick fix, I hate to disappoint, but you won’t find one.

True alignment is a result of inner healing - moving away from self-centring and into self-governing so that we can act from a more conscious, more aware place.

True leaders operate from wholeness (a wholeness that includes the ego, but isn’t run by it) and inclusivity (of self and others) - and this makes them magnetic.

Now think back to the stone being thrown into the pond analogy…

If that ripple had a magnetic effect - if it inspired others to show up more consciously, more aware, more aligned, more inclusive isn’t that the stone you’d want to be throwing?

People often ask me why I started coaching.

This is why.

Because how we show up in our lives matters - always.

And the only way to show up as our best, most conscious self is by doing the work.

People often ask me why I started consulting.

This is why.

Because how we show up in business matters - always.

And the only way to show up as our best, most conscious self is by doing the work.

And that is really what it is all about at Thrive - showing up as our best, most conscious selves always, and when we don’t, making sure we clean it up (and we teach other people, just like YOU how to do this too!!!!).

Our team of badass coaches and consultants is here to support you in becoming the best version of yourself and bring more joy, grace and fluidity to everything you do.

Check the team out here: http://www.charlotteferreux.com/the-collective

And thank you Marianne for inspiring this conversation.

How To Bring More Joy To The Process

Are you choosing to suffer?

In a recent podcast, I sat down with Dr. Diana Draper (to listen to E85 CLICK HERE) - Diana is a naturopathic doctor and after years of living with undiagnosed anxiety, depression and PTSD, she took a leave from practice in 2019 to create space in her life for her mental health and healing.

The incredible insights from Diana’s healing journey have inspired this week’s blog. 

During our conversation we dove into the topics of joy and suffering - concepts that are often viewed as being complete opposites.

When we think of opposites we generally think of different than or not the same - I am here today to shift that narrative.

So to start, we need to get one thing straight: 

Suffering is a natural part of life.

“And I think if we were better equipped with knowing that suffering is a part of life, life would be easier.

Like I feel like we’ve been really misled about the struggle within life, because we don't talk about it.”

So why don’t we talk about it? What is it about suffering that is so taboo?

Here is one theory:

If the desired state of being is joy, and we consider suffering to be the opposite of or different than joy, then we want as little to do with suffering as possible. 

BUT…

Here is where that theory is wrong...suffering is not the opposite of joy (well at least not in the traditional sense).

Enter the Universal Law of Polarity - which states:

Everything is dual; everything has poles; everything has its pair of opposites; like and unlike are the same; opposites are identical in nature, but different in degree;  extremes meet; all truth are but half-truths; all paradoxes may be reconciled.

--The Kybalion.

Which means that there are opposites, but to be opposite is actually to be of the same nature - just different degrees (think like a spectrum). 

To give you a really simple example, one would likely consider that hot and cold are opposites (being different in nature) when in fact they are the same in nature, as they are both measurements of temperature, just on different ends of the spectrum.

So coming back full circle - joy and suffering are like hot and cold; they are inseparable parts of the same spectrum.

I can hear you thinking “Well that’s great Charlotte, very interesting and all, but that doesn’t prevent me from suffering.”

EXACTLY.

Because the point is not that we don’t suffer - just like the point is that we never feel cold (particularly in Canada in the winter). Even if we prefer not to, it will happen. 

Because to know what it is to be hot, we have to experience cold.

To know what it is to be joyful, we have to experience suffering.

To know what it is to be abundant, we have to experience lack.

To know what it is to be strong, we have to experience weakness.

To understand the spectrum, we must experience it!

What is important then is that we set ourselves up to experience the suffering (or anything else that we deem “undesirable”) more effectively and shift our way back to joy - I talk a bit more about resiliency in an earlier blog (you can check it out HERE).

So how do we do this?

“To destroy an undesirable rate of mental vibration, put into operation the principle of Polarity and concentrate upon the opposite pole to that which you desire to suppress. Kill out the undesirable by changing its polarity.”

Long story short…

We choose joy.

And here is the great thing about life - we always have a choice.

Now to be clear, this does not mean we have a choice in what we get handed in life - we are not in control of the external factors. But we have a choice when it comes to our thoughts, our decisions and our actions.

We get to choose how we show up, always.

So why not choose to bring in more joy...

Because joy doesn’t pay the bills?

Because there isn’t enough time?

Guess what?

The bills will still be there whether or not you choose joy or suffering.

You have the same amount of time in which to devote yourself to joy or suffering.

The process will be the same, but where you land on the spectrum is up to you. 

“I just wish that someone had said to me like, “Fuck it, do what you love because

you're going to end up where you are going to end up anyways if you're meant to truly

be there. So do what you love, so you can actually enjoy the process of being there.””

Not sure where to start?

Make a list of things that bring you joy - and incorporate AT LEAST one of them into your day, EVERY day. Make it a priority.

This does two things:

 1- It literally brings more joy to the process, because you are adding something joyful to each and every day - notice how your day still looks mostly the same (the process doesn’t change), but now there is a little sprinkle of joy in it.

2 - By shifting the focus of your energy to the things that bring you joy, you start to shift the polarity or vibration at which you are operating - where our attention goes our energy flow.

Bring on the good vibes y’all. 

And thank you Diana for an incredible, insightful, inspiring conversation - you can check out E85 HERE

What kind of High Performer are you?

In E78 of my Podcast (to listen in, CLICK HERE), the inspiring Danya Douglas Hunt and I sat down to talk about the ways in which we as humans operate, and how to approach life with more fluidity.

As a former Olympic Head Athletic Therapist and Strength & Conditioning coach turned entrepreneur Danya truly understands high performance - in the body, and the mind.

But how can we start to connect this concept of high performance to the subconscious?

I wanted to share some of the insights from my conversation with Danya, with you.

First, you need to understand your starting point - there are two ends of the spectrum, and you will likely feel more aligned to one side (the goal being to find eventual fluidity between the two):

The Observer:

If this is you, you are reflective AF. 

The observer spends a lot of time thinking, analyzing and gathering information (or as I like to call it, clarity), but spends little to no time in the process of doing. 

Think of them as the “receiver” (of information/ideas/clarity/etc).

The Achiever:

If this is you, you get shit done.

In contrast to the observer, the achiever excels at the doing piece - they are action oriented, complete tasks and get results, but, they take little to no time to reflect during the process.

Think of them as the “giver” (of time/energy/internal resources/etc).

Neither is good nor bad, because both are ineffective on their own.

You’ll often hear me say that action creates clarity; the achiever within us does the action to get the information we need to continue to level up. 

BUT. 

The clarity we receive helps us determine our next action; the observer within us reflects on the process and determines what is in alignment with the best of us, and what our next step should be.

So now that we have all determined our starting point, what’s next?

DEBUNK THE MYTHS IN YOUR MIND.

UPGRADE YOUR BELIEF SYSTEMS.

You might be thinking, “Woah Charlotte, bit aggressive on the approach there.” 

But you guys, this stuff is so important. If so much of what holds us back in life is internal (ie. the beliefs we have, the narrative that plays on repeat in our minds), then why are we not spending more time challenging it.

If you are an observer, list all of your “what if’s”:

What if I fail.

What if I don’t have what it takes.

What if I don’t know what I am doing.

What if I look stupid.

What if ________.

All of the fears that would prevent you from doing the thing.

Reality check: Those “what if's” will never actually happen if you are always wondering what if.

BUT, I will tell you what will happen...

You will never step into the greatness you were meant for. 

Because when we operate from a place of fear, we are not showing up as our best self - as a parent, as a family member, as a friend, as a boss, as a colleague, as a human being.

And so you have a choice - keep living in fear of the what if OR lean into that fear, and trust that whatever the outcome, it is as it is intended to be.

BONUS: stepping into action provides you with more information to reflect on!!!!

Here are some great practices to get you started:

1. Get your sweat on: movement practices that create heat also create an internal fire which amplifies that action oriented energy.

2. Take baby steps: progress not perfection is the mantra here - breaking those big ideas down into smaller, more achievable steps to get you started.

3. Create a “To-Do List”: write it ALL out, then get it ALL done - this can be as simple as making your bed in the morning, but being able to see yourself complete action items has a snowball effect.

4. Find an accountability buddy: we often talk about accountability buddies in the realm of health and fitness - but having someone to support and challenge you in all aspects of your life is a game changer.

Now, on the other hand, if you categorize yourself as an achiever, ask yourself:

Do you equate your achievements with your worth?

Who would you be without the validation of your achievements?

Are you doing this for yourself, or because others expect it of you?

Now, you’ve got some serious shedding to do. 

And that is the shedding of other people’s expectations (which have likely inherently become your own).

Reality Check: It is your life - no one else has to live with the outcomes of your actions or decisions.

So, if you continue to live your life based on external expectations, the result will never feel fulfilling (it will never be enough), because it isn’t aligned with what fills YOU up.

So your choice is this - do you want to continue to meet the external world’s expectations and never feel internally fulfilled OR say fuck it, and spend some time becoming clear on what it is you really want.

BONUS: if you spend the time reflecting, the doing becomes more fun!!!!!

Some great practices to try out:

1. Journal: a great practice is to write three pages first thing when you get up in the morning (a bit of a brain vomit if you will) - just start becoming aware of your thoughts/ideas/internal landscape, and allow them to flow out of you.

2. Meditate: when we allow ourselves to be quiet, we create space to listen (which is as important in our relationships with others, as it is with ourselves).

3. Epsom Salt Bath: there is so much about this practice that is healing - but as achievers we have a tendency to give, this is a practice of receiving the benefits of the water/salt/lovely scented candle you put out.

4. Walk in Nature: by slowing down our constant running around to an easy paced walk, we are already shifting our energy - the benefits of being in nature are unparalleled, a simple google search will show you this.

The moral of the story is this:

Our life is being written in this moment. 

What is the narrative you are telling yourself? Is it to the best of you? 

If it isn’t, then you have a choice to do better - you have the power to shift the narrative and create a different future for yourself.

Thank you Danya for an incredible conversation!!

Check out E78 HERE

How to rise in the face of adversity

Ever felt like there are some periods in life where you are on that little kiddie roller coaster at the fair - but yet other periods feel like the drop of doom (on repeat)?

Yeah, I’ve been there.

In response to this week’s podcast episode about perseverance (to listen to E84 CLICK HERE), I wanted to talk further about one of the Universal Laws that relates to this idea of mindset.

For those of you who have been following my journey, you may have already heard me talk about the 12 Universal Laws - but I wanted to focus on one for this particular blog, the Universal Law of Rhythm.

And no, I am not talking about getting your boogie on.

The Universal Law of Rhythm states:

"Everything flows, out and in; everything has its tides; all things rise and fall; the pendulum-swing manifests in everything; the measure of the swing to the right is the measure of the swing to the left; rhythm compensates."

--The Kybalion.

But what exactly does this mean?

Well here is my interpretation…

If we were to spend some time watching a pendulum we would notice that it naturally swings from left to right and back again - the height of swing from side to side is equivalent, meaning that the height as it swings to the left will be matched on the right.

And so it goes in life - we receive periods of highs, and periods of lows in equal parts.

What is important then is not whether or not we can avoid suffering at all costs, but how we show up when our pendulum swings in this direction.

Enter mindset. 

I want you to think about a time in your life where you experienced hardship, challenge, suffering of any kind - how did you show up?

There are a couple options here - either we experience the situation with unattached awareness, we distract ourselves away from the experience, or we judge/label/feed into what is happening.

In E84 of my Podcast, I share with you some of the major milestones of my own journey - and how the most difficult experiences I have been up against have led to some of the proudest, most beautiful moments of my life - because I didn’t buy into the low or pretend that it wasn’t happening.

I experienced the low, because this is a necessary part of the process, a necessary part of the healing. But I moved forward. 

In moving forward, that pendulum starts to shift in the opposite direction - we are able to bounce back.

But how do we move forward if we don’t know where to begin?

Here are my top tips to rise in the face of adversity:

1 - Understand your strengths AND weaknesses.

Look we all have things that come easily to us, and then there are those things that we just cannot figure out no matter how much time we invest - get to know these parts of yourself. Become an expert in understanding your skill set so that when faced with a challenge you are able to either learn what it is you need to, or find support in someone who knows how to do what you don’t.

2 - Be open AND coachable.

The more fluid you are in the process, the easier it will be to move forward - which is not to say that being fluid is easy. Notice where you are resistant to the process, or to the feedback that is handed to you. And then...Do. The. Work. Make the shifts, lean into the discomfort, show up differently. Know that even when something stings (perhaps especially when it stings) information is what ultimately helps us move forward.

3 - Ask yourself what you really want.

It’s great to understand where you might need to learn or lean into support, and it’s important to be open during the process - but none of this matters if deep down you don’t want it. In order to rise from the metaphorical ashes of adversity, there needs to be a fire - and that fire comes from within you. Take the time to reflect on what it is that you TRULY want, and be okay with whatever the answer is that comes up.

The more we practice this, the less drastic the pendulum swings (imagine instead of someone giving the pendulum a push it is just at rest - because even at rest it moves with slight energy from left to right).

This pendulum is our life. 

We can either ride the highs and lows at random - or invest in our mindset to meet the highs and lows with awareness.

And when we meet the lows with awareness, we are given a choice - we can allow ourselves to buy into it, to become consumed or to knowingly distract our attention (and that pendulum swing continues to shift dramatically from left to right).

Or, we can become unattached, we can recognize that the highs and lows occur in rhythm with one another - that the struggle is just as important as the triumph. We experience, we learn, we move forward.

So maybe, in a way, it is a little bit like a dance - boogie on my friends.

And know that everything you need (and more) is already inside of you.

To listen to E84 CLICK HERE

Trust in the Timing

Trust has become a central theme for me in 2020, both in business and in life - so I thought I would share with you my take on Divine Timing.

In E77 of the Podcast I talk more about trusting in the timing - to listen in CLICK HERE

2020 has been coined a “NO FORCING ZONE”.

No forcing relationships.

No forcing ideas.

No forcing business.

No forcing that button on your jeans to do up.

If it is meant for you, you won’t have to force it.

Because here is the thing about Divine Timing - you are always right on time. 

You are right where you need to be.

You are learning the lessons you need to learn.

You are having the experiences you need to have.

You, and your life are on purpose.

BUT.

This does not mean that we move forward without action, that we take a back seat to our own existence, that we expect the universe to simply deliver without any steps on our part.

For example…

Say you want to run a marathon, and so you manifest yourself running the exhilarating 26.2 miles, you visualize how you would feel before, during and after.

But - you don’t sign up for a race, you don’t do any physical training.

Now maybe you are quite naturally fit and one day you go out and you run 26.2 miles somewhere. But the likelihood is, because you didn’t take any action, this marathon probably won’t happen.

Life is a lot like that too.

We can envision the future we want for ourselves (this is in fact an important part of the process) - but if we don’t take any steps to get there, we will stay right where we are.

If nothing changes, then quite literally, nothing changes - we need action to create clarity, because clarity is an incredibly important piece of the puzzle.

Here’s how...

The clarity we get are the lessons we learn from everything that we do.

We figure out what works, and what doesn’t. 

We discover what we like, and what we don’t. 

But most importantly, we see what lands & comes together, and what doesn’t.

I’ll give you another example here…

In E77 of my Podcast, I talk about how being told no to a $100,000 grant is actually what helped me to step into my next level.

Sounds crazy right?

But here is the thing - if I had received the $100,000 grant, my life would’ve taken an entirely different trajectory, one that wasn’t meant for me. 

Instead, the process of applying for the grant helped me to solidify the direction I wanted to take in my work - the action created the clarity, and in this way helped me not only move forward with greater purpose, but step into my next level of being.

You might be thinking - were you not disappointed being told no after putting in all that work?

Of course I was!

But I also didn’t let it slow me down - I trusted that being told no was exactly what I needed.

Which brings us all the way back around to the theme of trust. 

It is easy to say that we trust in the timing of our lives. That we trust other people. That we trust ourselves. But really, at the core of it, trust is a pretty terrifying concept.

And that is okay.

Trust is a practice. 

It is a practice of humbling our expectations. 

A practice of finding as much joy and gratitude in our present circumstance as possible.

And just like us, this practice isn’t perfect - it’s a learn as we go type situation.

But if you can get to a place where you truly trust that everything is happening as it should be, then you stop forcing things into your life that aren’t meant for you, and you make space for the more incredible, more aligned things that are.

Now this doesn’t mean that it won’t be challenging at times - we are here in this life to learn the lessons that are required for us to reach that next level. And then the next. And then the next. And these will be difficult at times, if not all the time.

But if you are constantly trying to force things into your life, you have no space left for the things that are truly meant to be there - and they are beyond your wildest dreams.

And so I challenge you to bring more joy to the process, to not get stuck in the trap of perfection, and to keep trying, and trying, and trying to put your ideas out into the world - because when the timing is right, and it all comes together, it will feel SO damn good!

You can listen to E77 HERE

Our Recipe for Success

I sat down with the incredible Jasmine Shea for the second time a couple weeks ago, and I could not be more excited to share with y’all the conversation we got into.

If you want to listen in on E83 of the Podcast CLICK HERE

And for those of you who don’t already know her, let me give a quick intro for this amazing human being - she is a certified Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner, a Human Resources professional with experience in coaching leaders & CEOs in digital marketing, and the founder of Your Dinner Is Planned. 

Jasmine is also a member of our Thrive Collective, a team of female experts that work with women in the Female Founders Club.

Talk about badass 🙌🙌

Since then we have developed not only an incredible friendship, but also an extraordinary coaching relationship that has inspired growth in both of us:

“And that's where I feel like all coaching relationships should be - the client is growing to grow, the coach, and the coach is growing to grow the client.  It’s this synergistic relationship, and it's incredible.”

During our conversation, Jasmine and I talked about our recipe for success in both business and life - and how that recipe was the inspiration behind the Female Founders Club.

I want to share with you the recipe to our success - and how you can step into that next level for yourself too.

You might be thinking: “But Charlotte, I’m not very good at cooking.” 

To which I would say, girl I got you, no cooking involved here. Our recipe to success involves shifting yourself from the inside out - so you can leave that mess in the kitchen.

So, what is the recipe?

Well there are a few key ingredients actually - coaching, collaboration, convenience and choice.

Let me break it down…

Coaching transforms the way individuals show up - period. A coach's job is to ask the right questions and help you dig deep to find the answers that are aligned with your vision and will help you to move forward in life. It is the next level of personal development around mindset mastery, and the ability to pivot, or bounce back quickly:

“Coaching has truly been the driver towards some of my biggest breakthroughs,

and some of my biggest successes, because of the additional perspectives,

and energy that I've been surrounded by.”

But I always say, you can’t be everyone’s best coach, and sometimes clients need something that you don’t necessarily specialize in - bring on the collaboration, and enter the Collective, a group of world-class coaches, business consultants and experts:

“The Female Founders Club is like a success buffet,

and you go to the buffet because you're hungry.

And when you're growing your business, you're always hungry.

You're always hungry for that next level of growth.

You're always hungry to step into a new level of leadership.

You're always hungry to grow and scale your team. 

With the different skill sets the experts bring

you're getting the entire freaking buffet inside.

So no matter what you need, because you're hungry, it's there.”

So now you have a coach that is specifically tailored to what it is you need, but a lot can happen between sessions - some of our greatest breakthroughs happen after a call, mid way through the week, or as we are lying in our beds at night.

 If we only have access to our coach once per week, there is a lot of space in between for things to be missed, or forgotten. This is where convenience and choice come in - providing a coaching relationship that is what you need, but also when you need it:

“I’m going to take this one step further, and say, everything in between is so important,

and I feel like with traditional models it's what's in between that's missed.

And so I loved in our coaching relationship -

with me as a coach and you as a client in this example -

that we filled in that gap, we filled in that in between,

and it wasn't so process oriented.

It was, let's talk about the stuff that's coming up right here, right now,

because sometimes it can feel forced on the structured call. 

So that was my experience, I knew that I could even serve you

in a better way by offering support in between all those times - 

then, when it comes time for an actual coaching call,

we've talked about what already came up,

so there's context we could talk about, and then

move forward rather than talking about what already happened. 

So that real time convenience aspect of the coaching

and what's in between not only have I seen that help with your growth,

but also getting closer to what that goal is.”

Within our relationship, Jasmine and I tested out the idea of having a coach that is accessible to you throughout the week (keeping in mind that each coach is able to develop their own set of boundaries). This not only inspired us to carry the idea into the Female Founders Club, but also to include coaching within the membership’s Facebook Community. 

Have a question you’re itching to get an answer to?

Send your coach a text, or put a post in the group and someone will get back to you within 24 hours, not one week, 24 hours. 

Any question. Any time.

And so, the recipe to success is simple - it starts with you.

In order to achieve the next level of success, you need to invest in your growth and development - in a way that is tailored to your exact needs, meeting you right where you are at, and is available to you exactly when you need it.

When we shift, the world around us shifts - and the ripple is truly beautiful.

To listen to E83 of the Podcast CLICK HERE

Thank you for another great conversation Jasmine - until next time!

How Coaching Can Transform The Way You Show Up...

A couple weeks ago I sat down and interviewed Juli Ann Booker - a Senior Account Executive at Vancouver based real estate investment company, Western Wealth Capital. I have had the privilege of both coaching Juli Ann personally, and doing consulting work within the company as a whole.

To listen to E82 CLICK HERE

In our time together, I got to witness the incredible transformation Juli Ann went through - she changed the way she showed up, the way she led, and the way she moved forward - and man, was it ever beautiful. 

What is it about coaching that leads to such transformational results?

I decided to share some insight from my conversation with Juli Ann.

A coach holds space, but also holds you accountable.

A coach is there to meet you where you’re at - you show up as you are, no shame in the game.

They hold space for you - whatever it is that is challenging you at any given moment, it’s all fair game.

BUT…

They are also there to help you move forward, to not get stuck on repeat doing the same thing without getting the results you want. 

To move forward, we need to be accountable for our actions - when we slip back into old habits, or make a decision that isn’t aligned with how we decided we wanted to show up (still no shame in the game here, because we WILL do things imperfectly from time to time, we are all human). 

And when this happens, a coach is there to remind you of how you want to show up, and to help direct your energy towards moving forward.

In our interview Juli Ann spoke of how this accountability led her to show up more confidently in conversation with her co-workers as a female in a male dominated industry, and how it shifted the company growth exponentially:

“You called me out and you held me accountable.You pushed and pushed, and challenged me to look at things differently. And when I stopped being afraid, it was like this world opened up. And not only was my voice heard, it was accepted, right? And now all of a sudden, it went from this kind of slow growth to this hockey stick effect.”

A coach challenges you to uncover new perspectives.

Perspective is a tricky beast - we know what we know, and what we know that we don’t know (bit of a brain teaser here, so I stay with me) - but then there's this whole world of what we don’t know that we don’t know. 

Okay, let me break it down…

So there are things that you are aware that you know - like if someone asked if you know how to tie your shoes, you would know that you know how to do that.

And then, at any given moment there are things that we know that we don’t know - like we know if we don’t know how to change a tire, or check if a watermelon is ripe at the grocery store. The great thing here is that because we know that we don’t know, we can choose whether or not we want to learn, or to change our behaviors, habits, or patterns.

But then there's a whole other layer of things that we don’t even realize that we don’t know - and here is where we can get stuck. Maybe we want to change, but we can’t see the piece that is missing, or where the gap is that needs to be filled. 

A coach shows up for you in a way that allows you to uncover what is missing. 

And how do they do this you might ask?

Magic 😉….mixed with a pinch of asking the right thought provoking questions.

During our conversation, Juli Ann explained how she felt like there was a wall she couldn’t break through, and how coaching helped her uncover new insights that allowed her to move forward:

“There was a wall - and the hardest part about it was that I couldn't identify what was causing that blockage.

I felt like maybe you could figure out maybe you could identify what was holding me back, and you did. And you did it so quickly.

I think after our first hour together what it really came down to was that I am a pleaser - I just want to keep everyone happy, often at my own expense  and that's really not okay

And what we talked about really early on was how I can shift that.

How I don't have to necessarily accept what other people are giving me as far as their energy. And I can use my own to make the change, that I can step in differently.

And that was really where the magic started. It was in our first session together.”

Coaching transforms the way you show up.

I believe so passionately that the world needs stronger leaders - and that stronger leadership begins with us.

But how do we become or create stronger leaders? 

By shifting ourselves from the inside out. 

Those shifts can be difficult, most likely WILL be difficult (we all have shadow work to do) - that’s where a coach holds you accountable. Even when it's tough, to move forward, to do the hard work, to heal.

Sometimes you won’t know where the shifts need to occur - this is where a coach comes in to help you uncover insight and new perspective within yourself, so that you can let go of belief systems that no longer serve you, so that you can uncover the truth that lies within.

And so coaching allows us to start creating these shifts, which lends itself to the bigger picture...

Even when we think we only need to shift in one area of our life, the reality is the shift needs to occurs in ALL areas, because nothing is separate - we are who we are, we are  NOT tiny little pieces of ourselves all compartmentalized to show up at different points of the day or at different  times in our life.

But for some reason, we think we need to compartmentalize, may have even learnt strategies around it - this is who I am at work, this is who I am at home, this is who I am with my kids, or my partner, or my friends, or blah, blah, blah.

It’s exhausting.

Here is the real magic though - when we start to shift how we are showing up in one area, that shift shows up in all the other areas as well (I repeat, NOTHING is separate). 

When we heal ourselves, it has this beautiful ripple effect.

When we heal ourselves, we become role models for others to do the same - back to my first point, it starts with us.

And at the end of the day, we always have a choice.

A choice in how we show up when things are good.

A choice in how we show up when things aren’t so good.

A choice in whether we allow beliefs that are no longer serving us to run the show.

A choice in how we move forward.

Juli Ann spoke of how she now often takes moments to reflect about how she wants to show up in any given situation:

“It really made me stop and think about every time I stepped into a room, every time I was dealing with somebody that I worked with. And outside of my professional life, into my personal life, to really sit back and say, okay, how do I want to show up here?”

So ask yourself, how do you want to show up? 

To listen to E82 CLICK HERE

And thank you to Juli Ann for the incredible conversation.

Become a Badass Money Manager - My Interview with Elizabeth Ralph

A few weeks ago I sat down and interviewed Elizabeth Ralph on the Change by Choice podcast. As a Head Coach for James Wedmore, Elizabeth and I met during an online BBD (Business by Design) training in 2020. Elizabeth is a money manager, a high-level business coach and the founder of Financial Story - the place where entrepreneurs transform from unsure investor to bad ass money manager. Elizabeth shared with us her story of going all in, and retiring at 39!!! You read that right, 39 - and now she helps individuals create their own version of financial freedom, starting where they are, with what they have. 

To listen in on our conversation (Episode 81) CLICK HERE

She is an absolute wealth of knowledge, and the conversation around money was so enlightening that I wanted to share some of the highlights and lessons with you.

1 - Your mindset around money is preventing you from becoming wealthy

Have you ever thought or said:

That’s too expensive!

I can’t afford that!

Money doesn’t grow on trees!

In our interview, Elizabeth spoke about how we all say or think these things, but we don’t catch ourselves often enough to ask the more important questions:

 “Who is saying it is too expensive? Is it the story? Is it the story that you got when you were five - because your mom or dad said it was too expensive? Is it the way that people are going to perceive you if you buy that? What is too expensive?

And that is where we start to really limit ourselves. And we're actually limiting our own abundance by even doing that.”

But how do we shift this way of thinking?

By becoming closer with our money. Elizabeth explains that when we keep our money at an arm’s length, our money keeps us at an arm’s length - but when we develop a close relationship to our money, then we always know where we are at, and when we know where we are at we can make choices that aren’t based on the fear of something being too expensive. And this ultimately creates more wealth and abundance in our lives.

2 - Start NOW

Have you ever thought that investing just isn’t for you? That you’ll start once you reach a certain level of income? That it is just for the rich? Or you want to invest, but don’t know where to begin?

Well lucky for you, investing has never been easier according to Elizabeth. It really is as simple as typing in the search bar “open and investing account” and then doing it. Elizabeth spoke to us about how the finance world has made money management seem much more complicated than it is - but with new up and coming apps, and online platforms, the veil is finally being lifted. One of her biggest hopes is for people to realize that there is no longer a wall between them and investing.

AND…

You don’t need millions of dollars to do it. You can start where you are, with what you have - in fact, you should. There is no time like the present, and the only way to become an investor is to start actually investing:

“If you can't go out there and spend 10 minutes to open an investing account, and automate $20 a week, then stop blaming it on not being an investor, or that the market is too high - because there's something else bigger going on.”

3 - Healing your relationship with money is part of you spiritual journey

Many of us hold onto beliefs around money from our own experience, or the experiences of those in our lives (see point 1). The issue with this is that it creates a story around money that isn’t inherently true. When we hold onto these beliefs around money, we not only prevent our own abundance, but we limit our capacity to expand in relation to our money.

Elizabeth spoke to us about how we must heal our relationship with money as a part of our spiritual journey - but oftentimes there is a disconnect. As human beings we naturally want to evolve - go further, let go of what we no longer need, shift our beliefs - in order to open ourselves up to something bigger. However, this is the exact opposite of what we do with money.

Instead our thoughts around money become wound up like a tight ball of yarn - maybe we haven’t made good decisions, or we are judging where we are at - either way we don’t want to look at it closely, we don’t want to unwind that ball of yarn, to unpack what isn’t working, to uncover what thoughts are holding us back, and to heal our experience with our finances.

But when we can combine our manifestations, visualizations, all the things we feel around our money, with the practical tools and information that is out there, that’s where the magic is according to Elizabeth. We can create a space of calm and ease around our finances - but like any growth, it takes time, energy, and a bit of discomfort to get there. 

4 - Money management doesn’t have to be scary

In fact, it should be FUN according to Elizabeth!

She spoke to us about the possibilities of getting creative with your money, and making it playful:

“We make fun. We kind of gameify money, to be honest with you. Because why not? Why does this have to be some stodgy, you know, not fun thing?”

Elizabeth explains that when an individual brings creativity and intuition to the table (combined with the practical tools and knowledge) they end up getting better returns. Investing is a game of not just reading what is happening on the surface, but reading between and beyond the lines - and that is where intuition comes in. 

Moral of the story, having fun with money leads to above average results.

Elizabeth’s company works with individual’s, like you, who are looking to rewrite (or maybe write the first draft of) their Financial Story - you can find Elizabeth on instagram (@elizabethralph) or by going to her website myfinancialstory.com.

To listen in on Episode 81 CLICK HERE

Thank you for the incredible conversation Elizabeth!

What is the Female Founders Club?

So the question is…

What is the Female Founders Club?

The Female Founders Club is a service-based, Mastermind community where women thrive. We blend Coaching, Consulting, and the Thrive Collective (a group of BADASS women experts) to create an integrated experience for female entrepreneurs, business owners, and professionals.

It is a one stop hub for almost all of your business and lifestyle needs.

You need help with:

➡ Scaling your team and optimizing your team's performance - check.

➡ Creating clarity with your hiring plans - check.

➡ Your self mastery - check.

➡ Your money mindset - check.

➡ Becoming a more effective & influential leader - check.

Y➡ our company culture - check.

➡ Your marketing & digital content - check.

➡ Your health - check. 

➡ Your spiritual abundance - check.

And all of this is offered on-demand - real time solutions to real time challenges that women face as they rise.

You might be curious what inspired all this?

I saw a common thread with many of my female coaching and consulting clients - they felt they didn't have enough time to do it all. And on top of that, when they hired people in to help, they were using some of that precious time to manage those relationships.When working with my coaching clients, what I found was that they often also needed specific business consulting. A coach's job is to ask the right questions and help you dig deep to find the answers that are aligned with your vision and will help you to move forward in life. But sometimes, a consultant is needed to provide the answers in real-time; the knowledge from an expert in a certain field who can provide tactical strategies of the “how” and the “what”.

On the flip side, when working with my consulting clients what I found was that they often needed coaching to really master their mindset, to be able to pivot quickly and bounce back when they hit difficulties. They were making progress within their business but still not feeling fulfilled or happy because they hadn’t done the deep mindset work that a coach can help with. 

So I asked myself, how could I create a space that allowed women to easily work with both coaches and consultants (without having to manage all of these different relationships). 

The answer: COLLABORATION

Within the Female Founders Club is a group of world-class coaches, business consultants and experts. We have High Performance Coaches, NLP Practitioners, HR Experts, Finance Gurus, Naturopathic Doctors, Marketing & Digital Content Creators - and that’s just to name a few. 

And then I thought, why not take it one step further - how can we make sure we meet women where they are at RIGHT NOW?

The answer: CUSTOMIZATION

The Female Founders Club puts you in the driver's seat - because we all know that business and life is not a one size fits all experience. There were months when I found my clients needed more, and months where they needed less - flexibility is SO important in our busy lives.

And so, you get to CHOOSE: 

When you need more, you get more.
When you need less, you get less.
When you need the tactical tools, strategies and processes, we provide that.”
When you need expertise in a different area, we’ve got you covered.

In business you need to be able to PIVOT quickly - it is critical to have the right team behind you to support that. These are elite-level services, not discounted ones.

Not only will you get support from our team, but also the like-minded women in the community who get you. Because being a woman in business can be challenging - women face far greater obstacles than men professionally, but on top of that the constant pressure and guilt of maintaining a solid home front.

You are not in this alone. 

It’s okay to ask for help - in fact, it’s encouraged. Part of living an integrated life is recognizing all the pieces you need to make that life work - we are here to help simplify that process for you, and give you the clarity and confidence you need to build your business and your life, your way.

Girl, you are so much more powerful than you know - you don’t have to prove it, but you can own it.

The Female Founders Club truly is an accumulation of everything I have learned and experienced in my lifetime, and I am so excited to share it with you.

If you want to learn more, doors open on Monday!

Click here to join the waitlist! 

Being Smart Doesn't Make You a Great Leader

If you’re a leader, this topic might sting a little. But - that’s where growth really happens so I encourage you to lean in to the discomfort and listen to my thoughts on this. 

So often when I’m working with organizations, businesses or leaders they place their highest emphasis on the credentials and the education and the degrees and training that they have. But what they lack to realize is that just because you have the technical training or education, doesn’t necessarily mean you know how to take what you’ve learned in a book and apply it to real life. I have seen so many incredibly intelligent, driven humans with incredible potential but they are trapped by what they have learned in a book. And a key factor is missing when it comes to transforming them into those really great leaders. 

Here’s my opinion on this: 

It doesn’t matter what degrees you have. What credentials are behind your name. What experience you have.  

Sure, those things will “get the job done”. 

But they don’t make you a great leader. 

In this week’s podcast, I’m going to share my thoughts about the 5 things that DO make great leaders - and not one of them has to do with your education, your credentials, your experience or your knowledge 🙌

Listen to episode 70 here: http://bit.ly/CHANGEbyCHOICEpodcast 

1 - Your People Are Your Top Priority

You can have all the process, the technical smarts, the education - but if you don’t put your people first in terms of making sure you’re setting them up for success, then you are missing the mark. If you aren’t making sure they feel supported by you, where they understand that you’re there to lead them and you want them to grow, where they know it’s okay for them to make mistakes  - then you’re missing the mark. Make your people your biggest asset, and make sure they know it. 

And if you’re thinking to yourself “well I have a great team and they get lots done”, that’s great but I want to challenge you here: is it short-term, fear based? Or is it long-term, respect based? 

No one is perfect here, but if we want to do better, we need to acknowledge areas like this one. It’s not about being a “soft” leader; it’s about being someone who challenges people to be their best and wants them to perform at their best. But they give their people the tools, insights and feedback they need to get there. They make their people fear heard and valued and they give them their time. Create a trusting relationship where you can share your feedback with them and they will take it to heart because they know that your intention is for their growth. 

Your actions speak louder than your words; don’t just be the leader who says that your people matter. Prove it with your actions. 

2 - Allow Yourself to Screw Up

When I think back to the most extraordinary leaders I've had in my life, none of them stand out because they did things perfectly. If they made a mistake or showed up in a way that wasn’t to their best, they owned it and cleaned it up quickly. It’s never about being perfect. 

When we are really in tune with ourselves, we know when we haven’t been at our best. And where I see leaders go wrong is when, instead of owning their mistake and cleaning it up, they make excuses and justify why they shouldn’t have to. It doesn’t make you any less of a leader to admit mistakes and apologize and clean up your messes. 

Observe what your patterns are here; does that work for you? Is that the best of you? How would you want people describing your legacy and your leadership in 20 years down the road? It’s such a powerful exercise to flash forward and really look at the reality; if you continue down the path you are on, what would that reality be? 

We are going to screw up sometimes. But nothing builds trust and respect more than the person who doesn’t wait to own it and clean it up. And it’s not a false apology. If you’re going to own something or apologize, you fully own it and then change action. Nothing destructs trust quicker than all words and no action. 

3 - Keep it Real

People do not want perfect, polished, fake, “have it all together” leadership. That’s not real. Now, I’m not saying have a lack of professionalism, but don’t hold yourself on such a pedestal that you seem untouchable. You should be able to share when you’ve made a mistake and use it as learning opportunities to train and connect with your people. That will help you create such an incredible base of respect, trust, real rawness. How open are you with your team? Are you setting a bar so high that nobody can relate to it? Are you sharing your own journey? 

If you’re not, you might be inadvertently creating an environment in which everyone else has to pretend like things are perfect because they think that’s the standard. 

4 - Have Emotional Intelligence 

There’s this false myth out there that emotion and leadership can not mix; that leadership is strong, emotionless. This is just not the world we live in today. I do believe you can have the best of both worlds with your leadership. 

Within our company, we have a value base that helps us decide who we hire and who we work with. And some might look perfect “on paper”, but when you start to talk to them, it’s just not the right fit. It doesn’t necessarily feel right based on who they are, what values they exhibit, how they speak about people, the questions they ask (or don’t), their balance between listening and speaking. 

The best leaders know how to navigate both worlds - the objective credentials and experience and tasks and productivity, but also the personalities, the emotions and the nuances. 

5 - Lead by Example

Be the role model; the strongest way that we can connect to being influential is by people seeing and absorbing how you're doing things, how you communicate, how you show up, how you clean up and what your priorities are. 

If they don’t see you doing it, do not expect them to do it. And if they are doing it, at some point, they aren’t going to want to do it anymore. You will lose great people. 

Connect into your legacy. What do you value? How do you want to show up and what changes do you want to make to get there? Remember that actions speak louder than words. You have to be that role model. 

And share that vision with your team. I always share with my team: this is who I am, what you can expect from me, what I expect from you and what we are working towards. And then I role model it every single day. And when I make a mistake, I own it and clean it up. 

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I have one final thought on all of this, and why it matters SO damn much - the people you lead, they go home to families. They spend so much of their time at work and you matter in their world. You can make or break someone’s experience in life based on how you’ve shown up as a leader. I want you to let that sink in. Those people go home to their partners and children. They have your words and your tone and your intention in their minds. 

If we want to shift how the world shows up and we want to shift how our children grow up, we play a huge role in that. If people are going home and they hate their job and they hate their manager and they are bringing home toxic energy that ripples out to their families, then we are not doing a good enough job. And it is why I do what I do with Thrive, why this has been the path of my work, it’s so that we shift human beings so that we can be our best selves. And it matters how we show up. It absolutely matters. There is a ripple from every single one of us and that ripple changes people. 

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Building Your Business While Staying in your Own Empowered Lane

Are you ready to build your business in your lane?

Whether you're building an online business or working for a company or anything in between, I want you to create something that is truly your own. 

We are so bombarded with incredible information and content and people who inspire us. But where we need to be careful is that line between being inspired and trying to recreate exactly what someone else is doing. And a lot of times, we do it without any intention of it or without even knowing it. It’s really easy to get so inspired that it really just impacts what you are creating. 

In saying that, I feel like it’s important to also say this - there is enough for all of us. It’s not about over thinking and being so scared to create that you don’t create anything. That’s not the point of this and I’ve been in that boat before where I’ve over thought it so much that it stopped me dead in my tracks. Just because it’s been done before, doesn’t mean there isn’t room for YOU to also do it. Because the truth is that literally everything has been done before. Don’t get caught up in thinking that you can’t do something because you don’t want to “copy” what someone else has done. It’s finding that sweet spot - where you can be inspired by the work of others, but the way YOU do it is unique to you. Because everything has been done before, but not by you. Not with your unique experience and skill and charisma. 

I want to share with you my top 5 tips to create content that will feel aligned and have an incredible, ethical base - all while staying in your lane. If you want to listen to this Podcast Episode, go check out Episode 69 on The Change by Choice Show. 

1 - Get Super Clear

Get super clear on what you want to create and the type of people you want in your community. What is your value base? What do you stand for within your business? Having those values and ethics from the beginning is so important.  It is going to show through the content that you put out there, through the team you could build or have already build. 

2 - Build Trusting, Nurturing Relationships

Focus on building relationships where it’s 100% on BOTH ends. Whatever relationship you create, it has to be equal. Energetically and action-based, it needs to be balanced on both sides. 

It’s never going to be perfect, there will always be ebbs and flows, but focus on creating relationships where you both WANT to give 100%. Where there is a win-win dynamic and they naturally want to help you and you want to help them in return. And if you do mess up, which we all do because we are humans, how quickly are you bouncing back and cleaning up those relationships? 

If this is something you want, and you have that expectation from the relationship, you want to be very clear with them on what you will offer and what you expect in return. That crystal clear communication is imperative and too often I’ve seen people not be clear on the front end, because they assume that the other person knows what they want (spoiler alert - no one knows what you want unless you tell them), and then resentment starts to build. And that relationship usually ends up being broken. 

You can tell when someone is shifting their energy and you know when you’re in a relationship and you're giving 100% and the other person is just taking. And if that’s the case - it’s okay! Not every person you encounter needs to have this type of relationship with you. You don’t have to make it mean anything if someone moves in a different direction. 

But when you surround yourself with the people who do, you’re just going to attract in more trusting, nurturing relationships and the support and growth will continue. 

3 - Build Your Expert Voice 

Build your expert voice and start to get super clear on who it is that you want to speak to. 

Something I wish I had done sooner was get every clear on exactly who I was speaking to. I used to randomly speak about random topics to anybody. But getting clear and focusing in on my specific niche has been a game changer in terms of staying in your own lane. Flush out for yourself what you stand for, what you’re teaching on and who you are speaking to and really start to create that niche for yourself. The more solid you ware there, the more you’re able to create content that is relevant to that group and the more it will come from your unique voice and expertise. When you’re talking about a million different things, you’re not honing in as an expert in any one area. And in that space, it becomes really easy to have your message be clouded or shaped by what others are doing. 

But when you develop that secret sauce that is strictly YOU - you can’t help but stay in your lane. 

4 - Your Audience is Your Mirror

Your audience is mirroring back to you where you might need to course correct. 

A big part of sharing our content uniquely and putting it out there is learning how to develop a tough skin and also not waiting for things to be perfect before you put it out there. 

It’s part of the evolution of really creating that unique voice for ourselves. We get mirrored back to us where we might need to step in with more confidence, where we need to go deeper or where we aren’t being authentic. Listen and pay attention to the energy from your audience and your customers. 

This all connects back to you feeling really good about what you are putting out there and what you are creating. And in order to do that, you have to have a thick skin when it comes to receiving feedback but also have confidence in that fact that you have stepped in as an expert in what you are doing. 

When you get information back, it doesn’t mean you aren’t good enough or not worthy of being in the space. It’s just information as to where you might need to course correct to help you get even more clear and go even deeper. 

Does it always feel good? Absolutely not but that's okay. Hopefully that’s why you're committed to your own personal development that helps you move through those times where you’re feeling stuck. 

5 - Give Credit Where Credit is Due

This whole journey is about getting you to a place where you share your expert voice with confidence and authenticity. But we are of course going to be influenced along the way. We are going to learn from our mentors, adapt it to our own unique style and voice, share it and hopefully inspire others to share and create based on what they learned from us. 

When you’re influenced by someone, give them credit for it! 

When someone is looking at your content and they see that you are giving credit and acknowledgement to all of the people who you learned from, it builds trust. They can see that you are woven from a wealth of experiences. Being an expert doesn’t mean you come up with every single thing on your own. It means sharing your unique take and being responsible in the space of doing so and role modeling that behaviour for people. You attract in abundance because you are giving and you’re not afraid to share where things have come from. 

Role model something differently. When you make decisions in the llow vibrational realm, fear based, or thinking that no one will notice, where your compass is off, you're not going to have long term,  feel good success. People won’t trust you and your reputation will be compromised. 

If you do it the other way, keep yourself tied to your values and what feels right to you, you won’t lose something you will gain the cycle of abundance. Your action though is imperative. It’s about aligning yourself with the right people and you will create and attract more abundance within your life. 

I’m so excited for you to build that business of your dreams; to create content that is yours that you can feel so good about and from that, you’re going to create amazing abundance within your life. This is authentic creation and it comes from your ability to be confident and stay within what you truly need to share. Give yourself that permission. 

If you want to listen to this Podcast Episode, go check out Episode 69 on The Change by Choice Show. 

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Managing Boundaries with Customer Service

When you’re running a business, we often want to share our message and our content/products on as many platforms as possible to maximize how many people we are reaching. A business may have 6-8 different platforms running simultaneously. 

What this means when it comes to customer service is that people have endless ways they can communicate with us and the more platforms we have, the more overwhelming it becomes. And as you grow your business, it’s only going to get more overwhelming. It’s so important, when it comes to communication pathways or any other aspect of your business, to have the right systems and processes in place.

I always encourage entrepreneurs to have these systems set up even very early in their business, when they feel like they might not be necessary because if you do the work then, when things are simpler, you won’t be scrambling later. I want you to think about and write down all of the different ways that people can contact you. What feelings come up for you when you look at your list? Is it too much? Overwhelming? Not enough?

How are you extending back that communication towards your audience? How are you responding to the questions and messages and comments? Do you have a system and a process in place for this? What is coming up for you that would be something you might need to shift so that this process is more sustainable in the long-term? Because here’s the thing - you’re in control. 

What boundaries might need to be set? Are you at the whim of every comment and message, and you’ll stop what you are doing to reply to each one immediately? Perhaps that is working for you now, but as your business grows, this might not be a sustainable approach. 

What fears do you have? Do you have fear that if you don’t respond right away, you’ll lose that customer/sale/person/etc.? You need to drop that because when you operate from a place of fear, you’re not operating from a place of control. Trust that if the time is right for that person, they will stay. And if it’s not, that’s okay too! 

Here are some tips for streamlining this process:

Schedule Yourself. Instead of dropping whatever you’re doing to reply to each message when it comes in, maybe you need to carve out certain times during the day where you engage with your audience. Set yourself a time block when you respond to people and stick to it. When the time is up, it’s done unless you INTENTIONALLY add in more. The process should not take over your life.

Manage People’s Expectations. Set up auto-responders on your messages or your website, “Thank you so much for reaching out! I will get back to you within 24 hours” for example. Give people a touch point so they know what to expect from you. Just make sure that whatever you say, you honor it and stick to it. 

Set up the Right Systems and Processes. If you’re in a position to do so, maybe you delegate and hire out an admin assistant to help with answering the “administrative” type requests and emails. If you spend a lot of your time communicating with people with regards to scheduling appointments, set up an online scheduler where people can see your availability and book their appointment online. 

Drop your Expectations. Shift your mindset around the purpose of communicating with your audience and your clients. Drop the expectation that if you connect with them, then they “have to” buy your product or service or whatever it is you’re selling. Maybe you don’t think that you have expectations, but you might feel disappointment when you put a significant amount of time into nurturing a relationship and they say no. Shift your mindset here; first of all, if you’ve acted with integrity and respect, then it’s not personal. They are on their own path and your job is to communicate clearly and honor where they are at. Trust that if they’re the right person, they will come back. 

Your needs, your health and your well-being need to be balanced with your client’s needs. Nurture those relationships and make your customer service a top priority; but you can do it without completely losing yourself in the process. Lead by example and show people how you can operate a business with boundaries, respect and trust. 

What will be your legacy when it comes to your customer service? What do you want to be known and remembered for? 

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Fear or Intuition?

In my Thrive Leadership Accelerator Academy call a few weeks ago, a discussion came up regarding resistance...and I've been thinking about it a lot since then. It's something that I personally have come a long way with over this past year and a really valuable area to explore so I wanted to share my thoughts with you.

Where do you feel "blocks" in life? Where you're holding back for whatever reason, where things don't quite feel right or where you feel like you're often forcing something? 

You can feel where your blocks are because it feels like resistance; it's not smooth and easy.  I am a firm believer in the fact that if we aren't meant to do something, the universe knows and gives us information and signs and feelings to tell us; it's that intuitive feeling of "no, this doesn't feel right." 

But here's the hard part - we also feel resistance from our ego. We feel resistance when we are fearful and don't want to take that next step. We feel resistance when we are simply unclear or lack the courage to follow through. 

This is why it's so important that we start understanding the difference between resistance being ego or resistance being intuition guiding you somewhere else. And it's within this grey area that we often operate. 

Start to observe and journal when resistance shows up for you; what situations are you feeling resistance? Are they certain people involved? Certain projects or behaviours associated? How does that resistance feel within your body? Do you feel it coming to you from your head, or from your heart and your gut? 

When we start to build an understanding of what resistance is coming from where, we can make better decisions. We will know when we need to push ego aside, face the fear and step into performance and action versus when we need to honour the information our intuition is sending us, recognize the information presented from the universe and use that to guide us as our highest selves. 

When you are faced with a block or any kind of resistance this week, I want you to pause and ask yourself "am I being gently guided away by my intuition, or is this fear?"

Journal on it, reflect on it and trust that in time, you will get better at listening and recognizing the difference. It's a tricky thing to do but trust that you are given the information and the experiences that you need in this life. And have FUN in this process!

Protecting Your Energy

We can have our goals set in place.
We can have an action plan broken into manageable steps.
We can have clarity in terms of our vision and what we truly want.
We can be determined and have high ambition while still maintaining our happiness, fulfillment and relationships in our lives.

But yet…

Time and time again, we fall off track.
We get tipped into a place of chaos.
Overwhelm.
Stress.
Anxiety.
Disappointment.
Frustration.

Yes, a lot of things happen in life TO US that we have little control over. Those extenuating circumstances cause us to fall off track and unfortunately, all we can do is work through the pain, find the lessons within and eventually push ourselves forward. This is why mindset work is SO important - so that when those difficult times inevitably do come up for us, we can bounce back more quickly. 

Here’s the truth, though - more often than not, we fall off track because of the choices we are making. This is not about blame, guilt or shame. It's about recognizing and acknowledging the choices we make that tip us over the edge. It's about recognizing when we are playing small and identifying what factors in our lives cause us to make the choices we make. It's about seeking clarity in terms of your inner compass and figuring out what EXACTLY causes you to tip into the land of chaos and overwhelm?

So, what is disrupting the energy in your life?

Journal on this; write down the names of all the people, activities, projects, behaviors, etc. that are PULLING you into OVERWHELM, STRESS and DRAMA. How do these factors affect your mindset, attitude and energy levels? 

What is the COST of keeping these elements in your life?
What is similar or in common? Any patterns?
Are there seasons or times where some are more pronounced than others?
Are there any ties that you can immediately CUT from your life? If so, how?
For the things you can't cut, how can you REDEFINE those elements in your life?

The most important thing we can do to stay on track and avoid getting pulled into the chaos and overwhelm, is to protect our own energy.

Imagine that you have a "pot of yes's" in your life. You have a finite number of "YES'S" to give away - you give them to your spouse, your children, projects at work, social gatherings, your parents/family/friends, etc.  You keep saying yes to things, activities, thoughts, drama, behaviors until eventually, your pot empties.

And when your pot empties, you enter into a deficit. You start pulling on and affecting your time, your relationships, your motivation, joy, energy, happiness, health and finances.

My point here is that it matters what you say yes to! 

Start to evaluate and reflect on everything you are saying YES to that is PULLING on your important reserves. This could be activities, projects, people; it could also be the things you are ALLOWING to enter your life, such as drama, toxic relationships, comparison, judgement, etc. Of those, what is ONE area that you could start focusing in on and saying NO to more often?

Start small and make one area your priority. As you practice and gain more confidence, it will naturally start to flow into other areas of your life.

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5 Tips for Mastering Difficult Conversations

Nobody enjoys having difficult conversations. Okay that’s not entirely true; I actually enjoy them most of the time 🙊. It’s not because I enjoy being confrontational, quite the opposite actually. I enjoy practicing the skill of communicating with intention, with clarity and with purpose. And I see the value in the result that comes from having those difficult conversations.

But I am aware that I am a bit of an anomaly in this space so I wanted to give you some tips on how I prepare for and how I coach my clients on how to prepare for hard conversations. There is no space for just winging conversations that mean something to us. 

1 - Prepare Yourself

Block out some time to sit down and plan out the meat of the conversation. Get clear and really understand the result you are working towards; what are you trying to achieve by the end of this conversation? It’s so important, especially when dealing with someone who deflects, is to keep the conversation on that road towards that goal. Where we often struggle is when the other person throws new issues on the table that you weren’t expecting; then all of a sudden, the conversation unravels and you don’t know how to get it back on track to the issue at hand. Go into the conversation clear on your viewpoint, your opinion, the result you are hoping to gain. Visualize the conversation; what will you say or do if certain things happen? Visualize what might come up and how to get it back on track with respect and calmness. Also think about the time and the place to have the conversation. Pick a time and place where the other person is in a space where they can actually hear you and engage in a meaningful discussion. Timing is often everything when it comes to hard conversations. Also pick a time where your emotions are under control; when you’re fired up about something, it might not be the best time to enter into a conversation. 

2 - Share the Desired Outcome

Share with the other person the result are hoping for. When the conversation starts, be really clear, open and honest about why you’re having the conversation and what you hope to get from it. “This is why I want to sit down and talk with you today; I want to get on the same page so that we can move forward”. 

3 - Don’t Cross Issues

Stick to the issue at hand and leave all other concerns or issues for another day and another conversation. Stay in your lane; it turns into a giant mess when you start crossing issues in a conversation. So many people have defense mechanisms that cause them to deflect; they intentionally will deviate in their conversations, they will avoid taking responsibility and try to bring up other issues to either save face or make themselves feel stronger in the conversation. Those people are really difficult to have conversations with; be intentional about not getting to their level. If they keep trying to pull in other issues, leave the conversation. They need to know that you are firm on what this conversation was intended to be about and that you’re not going to lose your temper or fly off the handle (which is probably what they want). Just say calmly, “This isn’t working today. I respect your space right now, let’s talk about it another time”. This might upset them even further, but taking the bait and lashing out is not going to get you to the result you want from the conversation. 

4 - Really Listen

Focus on the listener; are they still listening to you or did they shut down? Are they getting emotional? Are they tuning you out or barely speaking? If they aren’t fully present or engaging in the conversation, stop having it because they aren’t even really hearing you. Watch what’s happening and know when to shut it down if it’s just not going anywhere. You don’t need to be right, you don’t need to defend or engage in “tit for tat” mind games. Nobody wins when it gets to that energy level. Role model the behaviours you need in order to shift the conversation and if it’s not going anywhere, leave the conversation for another time. 

5 - Find Purpose

Go into the conversation with the mindset that it’s going to turn out the way it’s meant to. If you know in your heart that you had the best of intentions, you communicated clearly with integrity, kindness and respect, then you have to feel good about that regardless of how the rest of the conversation went. You can only control you; how the other person reacts is on them, not you. Reflect on the conversation afterwards and find the greater purpose and gratitude within that. Be honest with yourself; what could you have done better? And if you didn’t act as the best of you, learn from it and clean it up.

Finding Light Within the Dark

Those dark times of our lives - the ones that make us uncomfortable, hurt our hearts, make us ache and the ones we aren’t in control of - those are the experiences we hate. We have bad memories of those times. We don’t wish for them to ever come back or to affect any of our loved ones. Those are the dark times in our lives.

BUT - even in the darkest of times, there is always a small pinprick of light shining through. Those dark times are the ones that truly shape us and change us. We just don’t get the same level of learning and growth from the good times. We get those changes from our downs. Instead of hoping for all the dark times to go away, work for the mindset to navigate those times. 

Work to gain the tools to move through those times with more joy and more grace and more learning. Work to give yourself and others the space to feel your feelings, find the lesson within and seek clarity in terms of how to move forward with this new information. 

I don’t mean for this to sound harsh, cold or abrupt. But here is the truth - with whatever situation we are handed in life, we have a choice in how we react to it. We can catastrophize the situation, allow it to bring us down, allow that negativity to trickle into all other aspects of our lives, play the victim and feel awful. Or we can have a strong mindset; we can view the situation as an opportunity for growth, for learning and for change. We can appreciate the good that we have in our lives, appreciate the situation for what it gives us and move forward. 

I am passionate about delivering the tools to help people navigate through these dark times and help them move through those downs in our lives. Because those dark times are inevitable - but how do you choose to respond to them? That’s up to you. But it doesn’t always come naturally; it takes coaching, it takes practice and it takes learning the mindset and self coaching tools to get there and to get there consistently. It takes work. But the end result - a happy, fulfilled life - is SO worth it.

Reach out to me if you’d like to know the options for receiving some personalized or group coaching - I’d love to work with you.

2020 Is A No Forcing Zone

Especially at this time of year, everyone is setting goals for this new year and this new decade. We are setting intentions of what we want to achieve or accomplish, what we want to do and solidifying our visions for this next year.

Amazing - don’t stop doing that!

Here’s what I want you to consider, though….you can set goals and a vision for yourself, but also be somewhat unattached to them. 

You need a certain level of attachment otherwise you become complacent and there’s nothing motivating you to push forward. But it’s in those times where you are disappointed, where things don’t get done, where things go astray, when those goals and milestones don’t get reached, when the path pivots in a new direction - in those times, practice non-attachment. Because here’s the truth; it’s not a disappointment or failure when something doesn’t get done. You either didn’t focus on it or there’s a greater reason why it wasn’t meant to be right now. 

Make 2020 the year of non-attachment. 

Don’t tie your happiness and your self-love in external factors either happening or not happening; because while there are so many things we can control in life, there are 100 times more things that we can not control. Things are going to get taken away from you and things will get given to you; great things will happen and shitty things will happen. You need to trust in something bigger than yourself that the things that are handed to you are working FOR you, for your greater purpose. Things come into your life (good and bad) to teach you and guide you. Things leave your life to allow space for other things to enter in. 

Let go of the attachment. If you’re forcing something to happen this year, you need to let it go. Let go of the resistance and allow things to flow the way they are supposed to so that you can sit back and enjoy your life more instead of trying to control and force every situation that you “think” you want and need to have happen. Throw things out there, set your goals and work towards them, but don’t be so attached to them that you end up feeling like a failure when they aren’t met or you feel like a flake because you change your mind or pivot your vision. 

This process has been a game changer for me over this last year; I am having fun with this process of just seeing where things take me and not being overly attached to things. I trust that if things leave, it’s to make space for other things to enter. If things don’t work out, it’s because I was meant to learn a lesson. I am living in a no-forcing-zone this year. 

Practice stepping into more non-attachment this year and I know you will feel so differently about your goals and your life. What got you here, won’t get you there; if you would like some individualized coaching to help get you to that next level, fill out this form to see how you can work with me.